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How Blaming Others Achieves Nothing (and what it says about you)
What’s the real reason behind it?
Ever felt that chest-tightening sensation when you know you’re about to get blamed for something?
It’s horrible. Especially when it’s a situation where there really is no blame required.
Picture this:
You drive to the cinema with your partner. You order your tickets and then, boom. You both realise you’ve forgotten your wallets. You’ve left your phones at home because who needs a phone in a cinema?
The trailers have already started and there’s no way you’re going to drive home and then back to the cinema. You head home to Netflix.
The exchange between you and your partner as you walk out of the cinema is one of the most telling exchanges possible.
Is it:
A) One of you immediately blames the other. ‘I thought you had it? What a waste of time. I can’t believe you forgot. You clearly can’t be trusted with anything.’ Cue not speaking to each other the rest of the evening or one person profusely apologising.
B) You both laugh and say, ‘ha! Oops, we’re such idiots.’
I’ve experienced both, in different relationships.
